Seriously?
If you were dead ass about to give birth and your "man friend" hadn't even told his family, nor invited them to your shower, nor taken you and his mother for brunch for Mother's Day or anything? If he hadn't changed his Facebook/Myspace status to reflect your relationship, and had no pictures of you, he and your pregnant belly....
Would you start worrying that perhaps you were involved with a damn fool? Would you feel like a back door chick who was knocked up but not to be seen in public? Would you just focus on the good things knowing everything else will work it's way out?
Or would you probably be profiled on an episode of Snapped!?!
Seriously.
Thoughts?
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I would have to resign myself to the fact that this man doesn't feel that same way about me, as I do him. My next move would be to focus on myself and my unborn child.
I'd be kicking myself for being so silly. Then I'd shake it off and move the hell on.
both of you ladies are much more mature than me.
I'd be on the news at 8 with more at 11! I'm not sure if it's a reflection of how he feels about the woman or really where he is in his OWN life and self evolvement, but I don't think I would be able to stomach that one...pun intended!
She might be the knocked up "Other woman". I would focus on taking care of myself and the forthcoming baby.
And if dude don't like it, and he keep bugging me AFTER I have left him... Well, tune into the next episode of Snapped to see what happens next. Humph!
I would lament my stupidness for getting pregnant before I made sure I was important enough to be a part of his life (meeting his family and so on)...and then I would move my stupid ass on with my life and make the best of it.
She was never a part of his life in the same way that she involved him in her life. She needs to learn how to read. He gave her all the signs, beginning with, no family introductions and not changing his relationship status on his online profile.
Well let me say this about that AJ.
If there's a woman whose 8 1/2 months pregnant...and I did it...I'm not the "man friend" at that point...I'm the Father. That being said, that woman is the Mother, and hopefully, the love of my life. Otherwise, I wouldn't be a Father, and she would be a Mother.
If I may be so crass my Dear AJ...if your willing to fuck her, you best be willing to man up for her.
But I'm quirky like that.
This same scenario could be used for a man as well, that being said, you'd have to question why you haven't "shown" to the family and if there are no recourses, then it's time to move on.
Whomever this is my heart goes out to her, I have been there.. same exact situation. Its not easy. If I could go back I would have just left him and focused on my pregnancy. I honestly regret not enjoying my pregnancy.. rather I spent the entire nine months worrying, and the first several years of my sons life worrying. So not worth it.
That was almost seven years ago!
My BF in Oakland keeps watching Snapped...she swears I am going to be on there one day.
Blah!
If all I want is a check for me and my baby...I may not care about your family. If all I want is him...then I want to turn that focus inward..to self and child.
The only thing she can do is get a DNA test proving that it is his and then get child support proceedings started. Beyond that, she should keep it moving, because either he is in denial about his becoming a father or she is by thinking that she's his woman. Either way, it's not a good look.
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